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We are so grateful to receive a steady stream of wonderful messages from people who have felt empowered after attending our presentations, seeing interviews with us, or reading our messages and posts online. These are just a few of the kind words we have received from supporters of our work in recent months. Thank you to all who have offered feedback and praise — it means everything to us! If you haven’t reached out to us but have a story to share, we’d love to hear from you too!

I would like to thank everyone who makes this blog work, especially the girls writing the articles. I have been reading these articles for about a month and they have had an astounding influence on me. I come from a family where the girls (my sisters, mother, aunts, cousins) on a bad day wear size fives and body image is a big deal. I can honestly count the number of times my family has said I’m pretty or beautiful. Body hate is something I have lived with since I was 12 or 13. I’m writing you because today I looked in my mirror and I didn’t see flaws or fat.I didn’t rip myself apart. I liked what I saw. I like me. My body type is normal for people like me. The media isn’t right, my family isn’t right, I wasn’t right. I wish I could explain the type of confidence you have helped me achieve. In such a short time too. I think people want to believe that they are beautiful and worth something and all they need is a little nudge in the right direction. I still have a lot of work to do, but I am on the right track. I know I am because I’m happy.So thank you for nudging me. You are doing something truly amazing. Keep doing it! Thanks!!!   -Anonymous

I am sitting here overcome with emotion at your article. I am a recovered bulimic. For 17 years I battled this disease. I was bulimic through some of my pregnancies even. For years I despised myself and even with a loving husband and loving Father in Heaven, I couldn’t see my value past what I weighed. Your research on BMI’s has lifted a burden from my shoulders like you can’t imagine. Even as I have grown in acceptance of myself, I had geared myself up to believe that I would have to love myself in spite of what BMI charts said I should be. Knowing that I can disregard them is a freedom I didn’t know I could have. I appreciate your website, your research, your obvious passion for reclaiming self acceptance as women in general. I feel like I have taken a deep long breath after breathing through a straw for too long. Thank you , thank you, thank you! – Amy

 I started following your work a while back, and I was always very impressed with it and the things that you girls are helping uncover. I am naturally skinny. I am 5’8” and currently weight about 122 lbs. For me it’s just a little harder to gain the weight, and even when I was younger, and had a very fast metabolism, I fell into the trap. I started modeling very young, and my main ambition was to become a Victoria’s Secret model. Of course, I always felt big and disgusting when I watched the annual fashion show, because my body is “not shaped like that” and I needed “to lose more weight to be accepted as a lingerie model.” Needless to say, I became anorexic at 13 years old, and it took me about 10 years to recover. I still struggle with it, but having articles like yours to read when I feel guilty for eating an Oreo is more helpful than you will ever know. Like it was today. I am a little emotional about this! Thank you for all you have been doing in showing that what we are being fed in spoonfuls by the media is a lie! Keep up the good work! – Carolina W.

Second year law student and Los Angeles native here. Thank you girls so much for this campaign. I will do everything I can to promote your work. I really can’t thank you enough from the bottom of my heart. – Alanna

Just wanted to share my blog post that highlights the amazing things you are doing.  Thank you for creating this positive counter-culture to the mainstream ideas of beauty.  It is needed and appreciated! If there is anything I can do to continue to support beauty redefined through blogging or anything else, please let me know.  I am so appreciative of such a wonderful pursuit.  It reminds me of the kinds of virtuous, lovely, of good report, and praiseworthy things that are so important, and I’d love to help in any way as the movement grows. – Christina

You don’t know me but I just saw your spot on the news and I want to personally thank you for what you are doing to change peoples perception. I have struggled with weight all my life and it was not until I hit 30 that I said the words ” I am Beautiful” and truly believed it. I would love to help and support you and your cause in anyway possible. You are Amazing!! – Leah

This may seem a little weird coming from a guy, but thank you so much for your work!!! It’s really important to me that there are people out there like you working on redefining body image. Obviously, you put your focus on how women are portrayed, but it resonates with me. I went into recovery from anorexia a little over two years ago and the that journey has led me to a place of completely reinventing my attitude towards my body and self and it’s become of vital importance to me to reinforce those values in people I associate with, but particularly women, because they are attacked so relentlessly by culture and the media. Part of my recovery process was spent participating in group therapy with women that struggled with a variety of eating disorders. They are some of my favorite people in the world, because they were all looking to stand up against the mentality that became their lives. It’s important to me that people know that we can all be positive about our bodies, and we can also respect women for who they are. Thanks again :) I’m a huge fan of your work. -K.

Just wanted to say that your are so AMAZING!!! I watched the news cast with you and your beautiful sister and you two are such naturals on camera…very well spoken, and so inspiring! You really are sharing “light” to all:) I’m just impressed. Seriously, you rock! Your sister does too and I don’t even know her. Excited to see the billboards! Hope you’re doing well!  – Sharlee

I stumbled onto your site and facebook page through a friend, and wow! I feel like my head has been reeling ever since. Thank you so much for all that you’re doing to empower and enlighten men and women! My husband and I love seeing the latest things you post, and we’ve now budgeted this next month to contribute to your organization. Keep up the great work! – Kristin

I do not believe that we know each other in real life, but I would like to thank you. I have been following beauty redefined for some time now and I have been deeply inspired by you and your sister’s messages. These messages definitely came at the right time in my life (and a rather trying time at that) and definitely helped me realize my worth as a human being. – Natalie N.

I just received a the package of your sticky notes in the mail along with a nice hand written note from you and I am so excited to get started on putting them everywhere! Thank you so much for all you do! – Kathleen S.

I grew up with the feeling that beauty was the most important thing. I got told right out that I was fat and I need to try harder. “It’s painful to be beautiful.” they would say, “You need to deal with it, it’s part of life.” And then give me the look of “you need to do this, try harder” or actually say things like “You’re getting fat. You need to lose weight.” I don’t know if I was really THAT bad. I felt it though. I gave up trying later on. The few times I did my friends would notice, “You look like you tried today” or something nice. In the end it didn’t matter. I gave it up again, I would never look like the girl holding the product in the ad. At the end of the day I was too fat and too ugly. I felt like there was nothing I could offer. I wanted to be loved so much. I tried so hard and did many things that I have come to cringe at the thought of. I got a chance to get out of my home town a little over a year ago. I moved up to Salt Lake and I was lost. I was “fat,” I was 17, and I was scared. But I started developing a relationship with God again, and I learned about the strong feminist history of women in Utah and my potential to do good. I began to lose weight because I wanted to take care of myself, and I did care. For the first time I was beginning to believe I was worth it. I think I sort of knew Lexie Kite. Me and my roommate went to one of her Beauty Redefined presentations by her and her sister. It stopped me and really made me think. The things and the people that I thought of as beautiful were not really what I thought, or they were often unhealthy. I kind of went crazy with this knowledge at first. I started to look at their Facebook page. I was so shocked.I wanted to tell everyone. I wanted to show everyone. I felt good. All the times I had just sobbed growing up because I was not like the girl on the magazine and I wanted that so bad hurt worse when I saw how unreal it all was. I would look at the Beauty Redefined work many times and get this feeling of, “Wow that’s not real.” The more they put up the more I learned. I was blown away. I had never really felt like I was a good size or anything of that sort. Suddenly I get that I am normal. I am good the way I am. There is nothing wrong with me. They way I look and feel is normal. What I see is not real – I am real! It is so empowering to learn what real people look like again. I had no idea how normal I looked. Even more, they helped me to question if the standard of health we’re using is true health or defined by these powerful beauty and weight loss industries? I feel like the Kite sisters’ work has helped me to see what is real and what is fake and I’m so grateful for that. Beauty Redefined is an important tool, and we should use it to educate ourselves on reality! I can learn what is real and love what is real, and learn to love what I see — me. That what is put in front of me is MADE to make me feel bad. It’s a small change of mind set. It will make a huge change though. Thank you, Beauty Redefined!  Anonymous

Hi! So our house mom in my sorority sent us all an email because we had composite pictures last night, telling us that even though they air brush our photos – we don’t need that!! because we are all beautiful without it! annnnd best part, she at the end had a link to … a BEAUTY REDEFINED LINK!! which she said has helped her in the past months realize that she is worth more than she knew! I just had to share this (: – Ashley G.

Lexie and Lindsay, This is a long time coming. I want you to know how much I appreciated your heartfelt response and how much I appreciate the work that you and your sister are doing. You are heaven sent and I pray that the angels will be with you in your efforts. Finding women and organizations such as Beauty Redefined has given me hope. I have hope for the women of the world. I know that as women we are capable of more than being viewed. I have talked with a few of my friends about this and have had some great feedback. In fact, I am working with one of my closest friends to create a blog designed to organize people interested in cleaning up advertising. We hope to go live in the next couple months. I’ll keep you posted. Thanks again for all you do- Rachel.

I’m sure I am by far not the first to tell you this but you are my role model!! I am a 33 year old woman and mother of two girls. I look up to you….I always find my way to your site when I need a reminder that I am beautiful just the way I am even if I am not a size 2. That society, the media, etc. do not have the power to dictate to me what is beautiful. Thank you for all that you are and for all that you do!! I appreciate you my friend. – Natalie

Since my freshman year of college, I always hovered around 140 lbs. I exercised regularly, and never thought a thing of my size 8 self. Shortly after having my first baby, I started to panic, realizing that other women were so much skinnier than I was. Suddenly a size 8 was disgusting to me, and I was going to be one of those women who “let themselves go” after having a baby. I began obsessively comparing my body to every woman I saw, and starving myself. If I ate, I would run so long and hard that I got sick, just to make sure the calories didn’t stay. I got down to my goal, 117, and shortly thereafter got pregnant with baby #2. Shortly after he was born, I started obsessing again. Within a month after his birth I’d starved myself back down to 117, but this time it wasn’t good enough. So I dropped to 113. Of course, next I needed it to be 110. But I noticed that I could no longer run more than 2 or 3 miles at a time, because I was so weak. I couldn’t enjoy social functions because I felt like everyone was watching what I ate. I didn’t have the energy to keep up with my kids. The only time I didn’t feel disgusting was when I was hungry; I WANTED to be hungry. It was about this time that I realized I needed help. I began reading literature about body image, including Beauty Redefined, and found a good support system. I set a new goal to run a 10K, and have been focusing on being healthy enough to train for that. Even though it is still hard for me to weigh more than I want to, I am focused on health and strength now. I HAD to weigh more to be strong enough to run, which is what I love to do. I also find that it’s important to focus on what I can offer the world, which is a lot more than a number on a scale, or a dress size. I have a lot to offer! – anonymous

Thank you so much for all of your hard work, and what you are doing for women in bringing reality to light. I am personally very grateful, and was completely inspired when I saw the both of you give your presentation at an LDS fireside. I’ve been passionate about women’s body image and true worth for a long time, but you brought to my attention things that I had never known or realized before. The documentary Miss Representation has also deeply affected me. Such a powerful film. I now own it, am hosting viewings and showing it to everyone I can. I am deeply passionate about this beautiful, important cause. I look up to you for what you do. – Jenna C.

Hi! You have emboldened my sister and me and so many like us. Thanks for being one of the only organizations to not only believe in a better system, but encourage women to assert that system with confidence and power. – Maddie G.

I stumbled across your website today and I just wanted to thank you for doing so much to help guide all the men and women of this world to live in their hearts. I love the idea of your post-it notes that can be placed over suggestive images that objectify women. I live in Chicago and would love to support this movement as much as possible, plus the post-its would be an excellent way to drive traffic to your website. THANK YOU again for doing so much…and for being the voice of all women! Thank you for your focus on positivity vs. self destruction….thank you for all your inspiring and encouraging words! – Jackie M.

First of all, I would like to congratulate you on your fantastic work- I’m a facebook fan and I come from a small island in Cyprus which is in Europe but I now live in England. I’d love to thank you for your great work, it reminds me not to judge women by their appearance and has been eye-opening to the fact that we are socially conditioned to do so and stereotype people. The good news is that since it’s socially conditioned, it can be changed!!! :) Keep up the good work! – Laura M.

Lexie and Lindsay, I really like to sit down and read the articles and stories you girls write, they are so inspirational to me and when I’m feeling down about myself they always lift my spirits. I just read the story Lindsay wrote about how you girls got started and how growing up she had body issues and it made me really want to tell you guys my story and how you have impacted my life.  I have always been a small person, I shouldn’t have ever worried about my body growing up but like every teenage girl I did, but I took it to extremes. I grew up dancing competitively from about the age of 9 until my senior year of high school. My Freshman year I tried out for my high school drill team, I was thrilled when I made the team but looking at the girls who made it and the girls who didn’t I was noticing a pattern, I started believing that the only reason I made the team was because I was skinnier than some of the other girls (probably better dancers) and I quit. I thought that I had handled it the way the fit in with my beliefs but I didn’t realize that such a small event in my life would have such a HUGE impact on me. That incident with the drill team made me believe that how I looked defined my worth. Only wearing skimpy tank tops and leotards is fun when you have a little body with no flaws, but like Lindsay I would notice one little thing I disliked and that was ALL I could focus on. I spent hours in front of the mirror examining my body and trying to figure out ways to cover or take care of the problem. This behavior quickly spiraled out of control and I started picking up habits that led to eating disorders. From my junior year in high school (2005) until I moved to Salt Lake City (2011) I struggled with very unhealthy eating habits. As you can imagine this problem escalated and took over every facet of my life. Because of my choices I did poorly in school and work, and it ruined relationships with friends, family and boyfriends. I was on meds for depression and saw numerous counselors with no luck. Moving to Salt Lake was the best thing I have ever done for myself. I knew that there was only so much others could do to help me but I had to be the one to make the change. I made up my mind that moving down here would be my fresh start. And it worked!!!! I have made amazing friends down here that have made me feel that….well….I am worth so much more than being looked at!  I have been an avid follower of you girls and what you are doing and I’m so impressed with your passion and devotion to this project. In a round about way you girls have helped me in so many ways, from reminding me of my true worth to helping me get out of a bad relationship. A few months after I moved down here I started dating someone whose views of women are definitely driven by the media. He was never happy with my appearance and was always on my case about going tanning, coloring my hair, or purchasing and wearing clothes that showed off my body. He made me feel like all I was to him was “eye candy.” In January I asked him if he would go to your fireside with me and he refused because he didn’t like the feminist messages you were teaching women. That was the last straw and it gave me the courage to take a stand for myself and get him OUT of my life. I could go on and on and on about how you have positively affected my life but this has already turned into a really long note. Just know that I am SO proud of you and am so grateful for the positive message you are bringing to women. I’m so glad I get to know you girls and grateful to have you as friends! Thank you for taking the time to read this, I’m sure you get lots of letters and things like this but I wanted you to know the impact you have had in my life. – Karrie

Dear Lexie Kite, WOW!!! Today you came and visited my ward to speak to the young women and men and everything you said was true and I fully support your group and cause. You also made me feel better about the way I look, so thank you so much for that!!!  – Elle G.

Hi! I am finishing my Bachelor of Fine Arts in Photography and am doing a project for my Image Manipulation class and chose to explore the huge problems with over retouching and the negative effects it is having on all of us!. The unrealistic norms that are flashing before our eyes constantly is horrible and people need to be more aware of what they are seeing and know that it is not normal, nor right! I found your cause in a Google search, loved it, and immediately ‘liked’ Beauty Redefined on Facebook. I cannot stop reading all of your amazing articles! LOL. Thank you for your time and for using your intelligence for such a great cause! – Sasha G.

Hey, I know you probably get this a lot, but I am a huge fan of what you guys are doing. I went to your presentation last summer at an YSA Summit, and I was very intrigued. I have just started working on my Master’s degree and the mental health of teenage girls is a particular interest to me. It is amazing how negatively low self esteem and a negative view of herself can affect a young lady in so many aspects of her life. I would very much like to find some way to get involved with something like this and find a way to bring it to the schools and improve adolescent mental health from the root of where much feeling of inadequacy lies…school (unfortunately at all grade levels, so it seems). Thanks for all you are doing! – Aubrey C.

I just wanted to write you a note and let you know how much of a role model you are to me and so many others. I love how passionate you are about your work and I want you to know that you are making a difference! You and your ideals are such an inspiration! Thank you for being you and for following your passions and actually making something come of it. I am grateful to have gotten to know you. Everytime I see your beauty redefined page or updates about it, it just makes me smile. You are amazing women. – Mandy

You are AMAZING!! Ok, so I watched both of your interviews w/Fox 13 & am SO completely blown away with what you & your sister have been able to accomplish! Wow. Not only motivating positive self-image, but also the push to get out of your comfort zone &/or the walls of your home & make a difference in this world! Thank you for your example & the extra push your accomplishments have given me. Can’t wait to see the 1st billboard while driving! – Natalie

So I had a total Beauty Redefined moment today and I felt like I should tell you about it as I found a lot of comfort and self worth in it. So I was at Nordstrom today trying on this awesome yellow skirt. It was wonderful, until I looked at myself from the side, and I could see cellulite on the back of my thigh. But if I stood any other way, it was still super cute. So I decided to get it, but went around looking some more. I kept thinking to myself, ‘if I buy that skirt, I need to get a pair of Spanx to smooth out my cellulite.’ and then you’re research popped into my head and I thought ‘REAL WOMEN HAVE CELLULITE!’ Needless to say, I got the skirt and skimped on the spanks. No need for that when I know what a real woman looks like and that I don’t need to hide the “imperfections” that make me beautiful!  Thank you for helping me realize this and for giving me new self confidence. I hope this note finds you in good spirits and wonderful health.  – Love, T

I have a ton of respect for your campaign and love what you’re doing. I have full faith in your cause! If I can help in any way, please let me know! – Kaitlyn

YOU ARE AMAZING!! I find myself getting a little teary-eyed/upset when I read what society is making us believe! Like when I read your post today, I was thinking –  ok stop being so ridiculous and hard on yourself, the fact that you are slightly “breaking out” on your face doesn’t mean your ugly! Anyway, thank you again – what you and Lindsay are doing is SO awesome!! One of my friends and I have decided that we want to be “The next Lexie and Lindsay Kite” – Ashley

I just wanted to tell you that I’ve been following your campaign for a while now on Facebook and I absolutely LOVE everything you do and everything you stand for! I am currently struggling to get over an eating disorder and it is ssssssoooooo hard when you can’t get through 10 minutes (it seems) without seeing at least one photo-shopped image of unrealistic “women”.  We desperately need more help from groups like yours.  It seems like the more educated women are becoming in issues of media’s negative influence on body image and self-esteem, the more powerfully the media is fighting back with even more damaging images.  Is it just my imagination?  Do you think it is possible that your billboard campaign could make it’s way up to Canada?  Or is it at least possible for me to purchase some merchandise from you, even the sticky notes?  THANK YOU for everything you are doing for us : ) – Angie

First, you guys are INCREDIBLE.  The billboards are AWESOME.  I am so glad that you guys are doing that.  I think it is something that Utah Valley REALLY needs.  Your campaign has definitely made a difference in my life. When I think about how I wish I was thinner or if I feel guilty about eating something unhealthy, I remember Beauty Redefined, and that I am “capable of so much more than just being looked at!!”  I am completely serious.  It helps to know that there are women out there who are fighting against these unreachable social expectations.  So, thank you a million times over!  It really is such a great idea seeing how there are so many pro-‘change everything about yourself to be beautiful’ billboards in Utah, it’s great to have the contrast that your message brings. Thanks for all of your help and congrats on your success.  What you are doing is SO needed. – Elizabeth

I love your billboard messages …just as I was beginning to despair over the message our media & culture is giving to young girls – I find your billboards ! thank you so much! – Mary

I just discovered your site through a friend on facebook.  I absolutely love it all and am so grateful for this important work you are doing. Thank you so much! – Benita

I have to say as a mother of 5-year old identical twin girls, I can only hope they’ll grow up to do something as amazing with their lives as you both are. Thank you for all your hard work and efforts for such a worthwhile cause. All the best from California. – Tiffany

There are not words to express my gratitude for your efforts. I work with girls who struggle with eating disorders and devistating body image disortions everyday and at times it feels like we are fighting a losing battle- your fight gives me hope. I would gladly help in any way I can. Thank you so much! – Mel

Thank you, thank you, thank you for making such major efforts to help women realize their worth is more than skin deep, and to free themselves from the snares of media. I’m looking forward to billboards that send positive, powerful messages to us ladies. – Casey

I think it is absolutely beautiful what you all are doing. I am a mother of 5, with three being young ladies. I was also in an industry for years that was based souly on ones looks. I have found that coming away from that day to day, made it much harder for me to find my own self confidence and self worth without the constant verbal affirmation from other people. I truely think that you are helping so many out there. Young and old… Thick or thin…. everyone should feel like they too are beautiful and absolutely worth it! Thanks again for helping to … well… redefine beauty! – Anon.

Lindsay and Lexie, I just saw you and your message on channel 2 news. Like many people out there, I want to thank you for your message and what you are doing to promote it. I wish I was in a position to be able to donate money or large amounts of time to help in your cause, but I do plan to look into things further and see if there’s any way I can support your cause and help spread the message. I have a 2 year old and I’ll be in the hospital tomorrow to have twins. I worry about the messages my children will be taught and believe from the media as they grow up, but I know that the most important influence starts with what my husband and I teach them by example at home. My twins are fairly large and there’s very little area of my stomach left that’s not covered with stretch marks. At first, I wasn’t thrilled about seeing what was happening to my skin, but then I realized it was nothing to be sad or upset about. I’ve decided that I don’t care what my stomach looks like when these babies are born-I should…and WILL…be proud of it! These are my “battle wounds” and a symbol of what I’ve gone through to bring these wonderful babies into the world. I’ll wear my scars proudly. They’re part of normal life and a symbol of sacrifice. I’m determined to take care of my body and to love it the way it is because that’s the message I want my children to learn, and I’m grateful there are people out there who are actually doing something to fight against what the media is trying to do. Thank you, Anon.

Dear Lindsay and Lexie, I found your website today and have been reading it enthusiastically and am really pleased to have discovered you. I was a body image coach and quite a lot of my teaching was based around helping women to look outwards at the world, rather than to keep on using their experience of life as a mirror – having everything reflecting back to what they look like or what people think of them.  Congratulations on your fantastic website and keep up the good work. I look forward to hearing more from you. – Sue

I cannot THANK YOU ENOUGH for this amazing project!!! I am a clinical psychologist specializing in the treatment of eating disorders. I cannot tell you how thrilled I am to see that there are people like you fighting the same fight I am to help save millions of lives! Every year I have an eating disorder retreat for former and current patients – and patients of other clinicians as well. I will be printing out pages of this site and reviewing all of your hard work with each of the attendees of my retreat! This will help them so much in their recovery process.  Thank you so much for all you are doing!

Dear Kite Sisters/BeautyRedefined,  I learned of your website from some friends on facebook, and I am grateful for your encouraging words and efforts.  It is heartening to see the work you are doing.  Your website does a phenomenal job of exposing the media’s impossible ideals and (consequently necessary) photoshopping frenzy.  Thank you for giving a little more background to the creation of the BMI standards and sharing the example of Lillian Russel in the evolution of beauty ideals. Thank you so much for what you do! – Sarah

Hi, One thing led to another and I found your website and the information about your poster campaign.  I must admit it is a bit ironic as many many years ago I received my BFA in Dance from the University of Utah and it was a fertile breeding ground all kinds of body hatred.   In any case, I’m glad to see you two doing some important work in your community….god knows its needed.  BTW, I have 15 year old identical twin daughters and I am proud to say that for the most part they are free of so much of the self loathing that young girls grow up with today.  Still, they will suffer in some way, as in our culture, most females do.  Good luck and congratulations in all that you do! – Marilyn

Hi, I LOVE the billboards!!!  I’m so excited that you’re doing these. What a great message.  It’s wonderful! Keep up the wonderful work. I sent your links to a few therapists I know – they were THRILLED. Thank you!! – Mare

I am a licensed psychologist and developed and now run a non-profit group for girls.  Our message and mission fits very well with what you do. I love your billboards and shared them on our Facebook page as well.  I think what you’re doing is wonderful.  Keep it up!  I would love to see these billboards in Kansas soon!  – Laura

To the Wonderful Women at BR: I love what you are doing!  I am recovered from an eating disorder and am now in graduate school to become a counselor.  I am a strong advocate for recovery and redefining beauty.  I loved what one of the sisters said in the Fox13 interview, something to the effect that Beauty is something that every woman deserves to be a part of.  Love it! Keep up the great work, and I will do my part on this end!!  – Shauna

So excited for the amazing coverage you guys are getting on the billboards!! Your message is so important and it’s being heard! Keep it up:) – Jennifer

I’m excited to see the billboards! I think it’s great work you’re doing. I’d like to see a billboard that says: Dear “Dr. Heidi,”  I’ll keep my lemons, I’m happy the way I am. I hate those billboards. Thanks for doing good things! – Melanie

I just came across the article on News 4 Utah and wanted to immediately go your web-site and read more!  As a woman who has struggled with a poor self-image and eating disorder I found your new campaign to be one of the best ways to send out a strong message to young and older women alike!  I am sick to see all the cosmetic surgery billboards facing us as we drive the freeways and you are right it is totally about what women can do to their bodies to make them better instead of loving the unique person that they are!  You do not see the billboards geared to what men can do to look better, but they are constantly being targeted with pill advertisements on the Television as to how better they can be as far as their intimate life goes.  It is all about the sale of pharmaceuticals and cosmetic surgery how very sad! We need to have groups of women whether in an educational arena or just through a church venue that teaches women to learn to love the person they are for there are no two alike, we all have special qualities that we have to offer. Thank you so much for putting the message out there and just maybe if we see it enough we will start believing it! – Suzanne

Hi Ladies!  I just saw your piece this morning on ABC 4. Thank you Thank you THANK YOU!! I’m very impressed. We just moved here from the east coast last year for my husband’s medical residency at the U and I have to saw I have been completely SHOCKED at the billboards on I-15 and the huge emphasis on plastic surgery in Utah….I’ve lived all over the east and west and there is really an interesting concentration of plastic surgery emphasis here. Have you found a reason for this in your research?

Hi Lindsay and Lexie, Just wanted to say thank you for your wonderful work and inspiring ideas with Beauty Redefined. I work at a girls school in Sydney Australia and have a committee called Collective Voice that addresses issues to do with body image and sexualisation. Also wondering if there’s any chance you’re planning a visit to Australia any time soon? Probably a long shot, but you never know.. Anyway if you ever find yourself in this part of the world we would love to meet with you and perhaps invite you to speak at one of our assemblies. Thanks again for your awesome work! – Sharon

Dear Lindsay and Lexie, I just wanted to write and say thank you so much for the wonderful work you are doing. I love the positive spin you have taken on what can be an emotionally draining issue- encouraging women to proactively question the norm and acknowledge beauty in the ways other than the narrow media view. I am so encouraged by seeing other young people changing the culture we live in. I am a 26 year old mother of three small children from Western Australia. I am campaigning against the disturbing recent trend of ‘porn shirts’. From what I have gathered, it is not just limited to Australia, but all over. It is very unsettling to know that it has come to this- where we have to fight against having degrading and misogynistic images in our faces on young mens clothing. Once again, thank you so much for you hard work. It is appreciated by many! Best wishes – Caitlin

WARNING: sorry about the novel! Loved your morning interview by the way! It was fun to see the two of you together. My cousin and I were discussing what kind of good things we want to be doing with our time and talents and have come up with a plan of action!  I know you are super busy right now but I would love your input!  Because I’ve dealt with body image issues of my own and because my beautiful cousin has never doubted it and desires to help others we are going to start putting on workshops for groups at church.  You two are doing a lot of good and have given us the push we need to start working on projects to help women realize their beauty and potential.  Eventually we would love to expand but feel this is a great way to start! I would love to promote your goodness in these workshops and ask to use quotations or statistics (credit given, of course) with your permission. You are fighting the good fight and will join you either way! I love you both, truly, I do. – Julie

I’m a teacher at Paradigm High and you two did a fantastic job. This message needs to be heard and I haven’t heard it so well since when Reviving Ophelia first came out. Someone needs to tell not only our girls, but all those foolish Hollywood types, that there is nothing glamorous, healthy, or sexy about looking like a concentration camp survivor. Thank you. – Kelley P.

I was so glad that someone finally addressed this topic in such a direct way because it is affecting every single woman in America. We sometimes hear the phrase: “Beauty is not on the outside but on the inside” which is a true statement, but not strong enough to convince women who are spoon-fed a completely opposite, man-made concept of what real beauty is. The problem is that we live “in a world where there is a constant flow of media images that far exceeds the number of women we could ever see face to face, creating for us an abnormally thin and digitally enhanced feminine ideal. A counterfeit, dangerous, unattainable norm.” Not only is this the ideal, but it is portrayed as normal and healthy! – Jessica L.

As always, GREAT work being done here. I have loved this project since the moment I heard about it, and I think it’s fantastic that it’s growing and reaching more and more people. Sometimes it is difficult for me with a “societally accepted” body type (I’m a marathon athlete and I come from a genetic line-up of tall and skinny…that shouldn’t make me “worth” more than someone else) to try and be outspoken about these issues because of the “well why should you care…it clearly doesn’t affect you?” response. What I love so much about this project is that it’s not about skinny, not skinny, etc; I feel like it’s about reality and beauty. Not “acceptance”. To accept someone is to imply something is wrong about and/or with them, and that’s not the case! This is an honest message, and the more people who hear it and see it, the better! Great work! – Shea D.

I feel so strongly that I need to add my two cents worth on this subject.  My two teenage daughters and I closely follow the research being done by Beauty Redefined and truly feel empowered by the authors’ message. It has been the basis of very candid discussions within my own family and with other young women that I work closely with. We are enlightened and educated by the authors and are incorporating this knowledge into our lives. We are grateful for the forum that these two women have provided to share their years of research via this website and through their presentations. We are realizing that the beauty standards set by the media are too exceptional and unattainable for even the celebrities themselves, who have been digitally manipulated in order to be featured on the pages and covers of magazines and billboards. Comparing ourselves with and trying to compete with the media’s preset and unattainable definitions of beauty is a pathway to failure. There is an absolute need to redefine beauty in more ways than just appearance and the authors through Beauty Redefined have given us all a ray of hope. You are truly uplifting!! Thank you! – Lori

Lexie and Lindsay, you are both amazing women who are proving that our girls are inundated with negative messages about their bodies and it is taking a toll on all women. I am a mother of two beautiful daughters ages 15 and 18. They are definitely influenced by these messages and they often hate something about themselves. I am also a well educated woman who understands that your research is sound. Although I may be biased as a fellow Ph.D. student, I am well versed in research methods. Your lives are devoted to sound research methods and you have found that negative messages do actually influences our daughters, sisters, and mothers to hate something about themselves. Thank you for all you both do! – Laura D.

Wow..thank you so much I struggle everyday and you reminded me whats truly important. – Kari

I love these posts and I love this blog! So many blogs dealing with women’s issues just write angry rants, but you guys give us an action plan and teach us how to change our attitudes as individuals. You notify of us the problems, but also give us answers – and hope. Thank you for that. Keep up the good work! – Tasha

I must say, you two are a God-send for women suffering under the delusion that they must keep battling their bodies to be worthwhile to tarry upon this earth ! Somewhere in between the classic “Twiggy ” look of the 60s and Kristy Ally, there has got to be a satisfied woman the way God intended her to look. – Geoff

I’m so thankful there are still people who take care of such irritating issues! Even if one considers herself well informed, it’s disturbing to see the degree in which photos of celebrities are being manipulated and along with them our minds and standards. I am disgusted by the photoshopped pic of Ann Taylor! It’s below size zero..so unnatural. I hope you know how wonderful your project is! It really is about time to redefine beauty! And what you do is beautiful. Thank you. – Elenni

I just wanted to let you both know that I really admire the work that you are doing. I am working on my MA in Psychology with plans to pursue my doctorate next year and want to study women’s image dysmorphia. There is so much to be done, but the fact that you are taking such a proactive stance motivates me to get going too! Thanks for such great insight! – Lauren

When I was sixteen, my father told me that I needed to get breast implants and lose weight even though I was a size zero. As a result, I suffered from extremely low self-esteem and dated men who criticized my body and treated me poorly like my father. I always thought my ex-boyfriends would treat me better if I looked like the models in magazines and had plastic surgery. I never wanted to wear a swim suit in front of anyone and no longer went to pool parties at the age of fourteen. I’m now 29 and went to my first pool party a couple of weeks ago, so things are changing for me. Thank you. – Nikki

Thank you so much for writing this article and starting your organization!!! It’s really great to know that I’m not alone and other people don’t approve of the advertisements from VS.  I’m naturally skinny, and I use to feel insecure about myself when I viewed VS commercials, advertisements, etc. I always thought that I wasn’t good enough since I didn’t look like the models, so met with four plastic surgeons to get breast implants. They promised that the procedure would increase my self-esteem and self-worth, and I would feel great about my body. Thankfully, my gut feeling said otherwise and I didn’t feel right about getting the procedure done. :) I gradually changed my mind set and started to boycott VS, sexual images of women, and other advertisements that promote unrealistic body standards for women.  I’m VERY grateful for everything that you do!!!! Thank you so much for helping women see themselves positively!!!!! – Lori

Lexie and Lindsay, I just donated to your billboard fund! I LOVE what you are doing. THANK YOU! As a mother of three daughters, I am hoping they will know that beauty isn’t skin deep, it’s soul deep. Knowing that you two are out there redefining beauty I have hope. I am right there with you! And can’t wait to see the billboards on I-15. – Jodi

You gals are so amazing. I am wishing I had a trip planned to Utah in the next month to see them. I am betting you will post pictures though! Hooray for a good, beautiful message. – Natalie

Fantastic work! I really applaud the work you girls are doing – it is just so important to send positive, healthy and helpful messages to our children. It is terrifying to realise how harmful what we consider ‘normal’ TV viewing can be. I also think it’s wonderful that you are validating the feelings of insecurity and shame that many women experience when they are exposed to these images and messages – there is often a sense that we should “just get over it” or be used to it by now, but it really can be so damaging to our self-esteem and body image. Research like this is much-needed – I look forward to spreading your message! – Olivia

Your work is awesome! I have a dance background (with all the body-hating mess that that implies) and last year started leading a women’s community dance class that raises money to donate to organizations working with girls involved in sex trafficking. Part of my heart for the class itself is to challenge how women think about their bodies and offer encouraging teaching on how to use better alternatives (focusing on what we DO instead of what we look like, letting go of negative self talk, etc.). I will definitely be using your website as a resource!! Thanks for your work! – Whitney

I love this!! As a mother of 2 young daughters I’ve already made myself a promise that I WILL be that positive influence on my girls. If they see me being positive that will send them a strong message and I KNOW that! I believe so strongly in the work you are doing and I appreciate it so much. It’s scary thinking of the world my daughters are going into and it makes me feel better knowing these GREAT influences on women and girls are out there too!! – Heather

I love this. I spent a lot of time feeling inadequate and ugly too, and I wish I had that time back. I saw your presentation over a year ago and have been following you on facebook, and I can honestly say that I’ve been making a more conscious effort to love and appreciate my body. I used to get mad at my body for the way it looked. Now, when I get mad at it it’s usually for the way it works- like when I get appendicitis or a really nasty cold- things that prevent me from LIVING the way I want to, not just LOOKING the way I want to. I think it’s natural for people to want to feel beautiful and take care of their bodies. I just wish that didn’t get somehow mixed up into looking anorexic, pore-free, and generally alien-like. Thanks for the work you’re doing- I love reading your articles. – Amanda

I’m a dude and this post opened my eyes a little bit. It’s true, we are being fed these images of “perfect women” by the media every day, yet we fail to realize it is not real. All women are beautiful in their own way. Thank you.  – Moe

Just wanted to let you know I plugged you on my social criticism site and I am telling EVERYONE about the work you are doing. It is SO important! As a mom of a daughter I’m just grateful to have smart and innovative examples for her out there who are pointing out what she is capable of, not what is unattainable for her. – Leah

Wow! Such awesome news!!! The billboard locations are perfect and I do hope to see more in the future. My daughters (19, 18, 15, 12) critique the current sexist billboards almost every day and we have been anticipating seeing Beauty Redefined’s *awesome* work on display to combat these negative images. Yay for positive body images and Beauty Redefined! – Kendra

I completely agree that there are deep illusions of beauty — so deep and so narrow that anything other than taking drastic measures to alter your natural appearance is “lazy” or “unsanitary.” I get this regularly. It’s nice to know blogs like this one are helping me in my mission and sticking up for me. So THANKS. Also nice to see you debunk some myths. – Ashley

Lexie & Lindsay, you are my heroes! :) Thank you for putting together such an extraordinary initiative. – Elena Rossini

I live in West Jordan near the WJ sign – I would love to see the eye candy one up in my neighborhood. Thank you girls for your hard work. This is just amazing. – Becca

I’m so, SO happy about your billboards. I honestly think that people will have to do a double-take when they see these messages plastered across the sky—no other message is so rare in media today. Thank you so much for your dedication and perseverance. – Maddie

Thank you. I was about ready to leave this valley, feeling there was not an ounce of common sense in the women here, until I happened upon your site. Wonderful research. I will take away from this site the hope that some great things are happening here, too. Thank you. – Shelley

Hi there Lindsay and Lexie! I’m so happy to find you! My boyfriend actually sent me your way! After recovery from my own eating disorder I founded a non-profit called Rewrite Beautiful. We change how girls see beauty in themselves with art. We believe beauty is an ACTION of Creativity, Kindness and Strength. It inspires me to see other women working for the same cause. I just wanted to THANK YOU for your hard work and I look forward to hearing you at an upcoming Speaking Engagement! Come to Southern California! Keepin’ it Beautiful – Irvina

Love the posts, love the work you’re doing. We just need to reach a critical mass of voices speaking to the truth to reclaim the images and messages our kids get. Thanks for being a great part of the right message. – Ann

Hi, THANK YOU girls for being an inspiration. i’m a twin as well, though not identical, and i am VERY THANKFUL FOR the amazing work you girls are doing. we need good messages out there. you are providing it, thank you. – Kristi

Halelujah! Amen! Wonderful!  This is an amazing “it’s about time” campaign. ¡Mil gracias! – Kate

Love what you’re doing. I’ve been an unofficial evangelist for this topic since I was in my 20′s. Women are hoodwinked – we’re tricked into thinking these images are the “ideal.’ Women hate themselves because of it. My biggest challenge is teaching my own young daughter that she doesn’t have to be perfect looking, and that attracting the opposite sex should not be her life’s goal. I’ve had a terrible time finding meaningful role models for her to follow in books. Most focus on teeny bopper stars! My hope is to someday create online stories for young girls with a feminist angle. Thanks and keep up the good work! – Suzanne

I received my LDS Living magazine today and couldn’t wait to read your article. Wow, you are amazing. What a wonderful way to present such a timely and important message. Can’t wait to see and read more from you and your sister! You have an important message and all girls should embrace it. – Ann W.

We loved your presentation! Thank you for your contributions to the natural beauty way! – Nicole C.

Love you and you two are doing amazing work. Raising 2 little girls, this makes me feel a lot better about them going out into this mean world. Make your mark you guys!!! Love you!!! – Heather F.

Congrats on your LDS Living article! Soooo good, inspiring, and necessary. Loved it, love you, and your exciting mission! :) – Brittany C.

This is such an important topic. Girls need to learn to be healthy, not skinny- those are two totally different things. As a personal trainer and wellness professional, I try to promote this idea as well. Beauty comes from within and taking care of the body that God has given us. – Melgrow

I read this article just last week in LDS Living Magazine, then I looked down at the author(s) & realized I knew them! These two darling twin sisters are spreading a very important message! I think ALL of us women can appreciate their message, and hopefully take it to heart. Realize, we all have so much to offer, not just the way we look. We must change our own standards of beauty if we want to change the worlds. – Holly

Lexie and Lindsay, it is obvious that you have done so much research on this subject. Not only have you done your research on the media, but on BMI. As an educated person in the fitness industry, I have read countless research on how being thin has far more health risks than being overweight. I also understand why you use the BMI in your research. True it is not an accurate number because it doesn’t take into account the things you mentioned, but it is a standard that is used by many health organizations (American Heath Association, World Health Organization, American College of Sports Medicine, National Sports, National Strength and Conditioning Association) because it is an easy number to calculate unlike body fat percentage. I have also come across a lot of research in my field stating that the images in the media are not ideal, and should not be the foundation for the goals women are trying to reach because they are incredibly unhealthy. I think the research you girls are doing is absolutely amazing, and as a health and fitness specialist, I find the research to be very sound. I’m so glad that you are standing up for women and showing that the media is corrupt, that we can be happy with who we are, and that “beauty” can be found beyond the Victoria’s Secret catalogue. Keep up the great work, girls! – Cindy

I love your blog! It’s really got me thinking lately and I’m noticing more and more how true your work is. Just wanted to let you know that I think it’s great! I know I don’t know you personally but it’s been awesome reading your stuff! Well keep up the good work! I know we all need it! Your links give me a way to send messages to my family and friends in a non threatening way. Just hope they read it! Anyway, good stuff. Thanks for doing what you do! I like you! – Vanessa

Thank you so much for doing this. I really appreciate it. I’m quite passionate about how the media influences body image. I love that you are spreading awareness of how messed up and distorted the media really is. Thank you, thank you, thank you! – Kenzi

I cannot express how passionately I feel about this subject. Over the past few years I have tried vigorously to speak out about how objectification of women just may be the greatest evil of our time (or ever for that matter). Pornography addiction, low self-esteem, broken homes, eating disorders… are just some of the negative outcomes of this issue that affect men and women. Thank you for recognizing such an overlooked monstrosity. It is so reassuring to see there are other voices out there. Please let me know if I can help spread awareness on this issue in any way.  – Rachel

Wow, I was so glad to come across this website, and happy to know there are people out there who are standing up to the poor way the media portrays women. It is undeniably true that the SI Swimsuit Issue is pornography, and sad that so many people look at it without giving a single thought about what they’re actively participating in. It’s true that as women today, we’re constantly bombarded with what the media has decided an attractive woman should look like- She’s an incredibly air-brushed, underfed, over-exercised, and surgically enhanced woman, whose looks are nearly impossible to achieve in a healthy way. Thank you for helping me regain my perspective, and realize that I AM beautiful. – Steph

I’m also an identical twin and a psychology professor studying how these types of media messages impact children. I love the work that you guys are doing! Keep it up, you are making a difference. – Jennifer

This is a topic about which I feel very strongly. It’s a message that I wish could be explained to every young girl and teen (and their mothers, who might need to hear it even more). – anonymous

This is such a powerful and beautifully written article. I hope this message will continue to be shared with everyone and I applaud Deseret Book and LDS Living for including this important topic in their magazine and on-line. As the mother of two teenage daughters who, like all of us, are being bombarded with these “perfect images” and struggling with feelings of failure and inadequacy when we can’t reach the unattainable level of perfection that the media has set for us, I applaud the insights and the advice contained in the article. We need to be happy with ourselves and love ourselves for who we are, daughters of God, and quit trying to compete with these enhanced images that exist on magazine covers and in other forms of print media. – Kydalco

Thank you for this message. As a photographer, I get so frustrated when a beautiful woman asks me to enhance her to fit the media’s standard. I hope more women embrace this message. – Emily M.

Wonderful message. As a young women leader I am hitting the bookstore to buy a magazine for each of my girls. Thank your for a treating a delicate message in a perfect way. You should be part of the Time Out for Women series,or Especially for Youth. – KuteePi

I found this research very enlightening, even as a male reader. I am glad that this message is being spread. I’ve seen many times where the media’s depiction of how a woman is to look have ruined my friends image of themselves. We are different and beautiful in our own way. Thank you so much for this article. – McKalin

Lexie and lindsay are the coolest! i definitely admire their work on this subject and their words should be heard by as many women as possible. we are not our bodies, we are daughters of god and our bodies are a gift from Him. great work, ladies! – Melanie

This is so inspiring! i truly believe that the media and a focus on women’s appearance and sexuality is a tool that can be used for great evil, to make us forget how much we truly have to offer from our minds and our hearts. This message especially needs to be brought to the attention of young women! I would love to see more on this subject. –  Andrea J.

This article (LDS Living) is well-written on a subject that is important. The authors have presented the delicate topic in a perfect manner relating it to the Gospel and how special a woman is in the sight of God. I read this on the web and looked forward to the magazine. When I received it in the mail and read the article, I was not disappointed. Well, well written. Very intelligent authors. I hope to see more from them! – A. Ward

LOVE THIS! It’s weird how normal all the perfect women’s bodies in media seem in our minds, when really, they’re not normal at all, and they’re not normal for a reason. Too many people make too much money off us feeling bad about ourselves and comparing ourselves to a beauty standard no one will ever reach. Woemn of all ages and men too need to hear this message on a regular basis. Well done! – ARH

Thank you! I love this. This topic is real and needs more people talking about it. – ANJ

This is an amazing article (LDS Living). I have been to one of the Kite’s presentations on the topic and it is amazing. The media has a way of defining many ideologies which may or may not be realistic. Being able to recognize and point out false representations is the first step in taking control of how media affects us and the people we love. I wish all women could read this. It is so so important. I posted it on my blog for all the women I know and love to read. – asampson

I am so pleased to see you bring to light a topic that is so pertinent to LDS women, and look forward to seeing this subject spread to all women. It is about time we readjust our perspectives and take control of what is valued about women. In today’s modern world, we are accosted by constant media. It seems so crucial that empowering messages for women, such as this article, be just as constant to combat the ill effects the flooding of media no doubt imparts on our society. Good work girls, look forward to hearing much more from you. – Jolyn S.

Man, I wish I read & took this to heart years ago! Going to modeling & beauty school, they tell you what is beautiful & that you’re not beautiful unless you do this, this, & this. Beauty Redefined was an amazing article. I haven’t had the chance to read the whole thing but the first paragraph has caught my attention. Please take a few minutes to read it. Hopefully you’re already smart enough & haven’t given in to what the world says is beautiful. – Danielle

As a freshman in college, I deal with the infamous “Freshman Fifteen” with all of my friends. I’ve learned that it can either be a weight loss or gain, but either can be equally dangerous. Each girl seems so concerned about becoming ‘perfect’ before her time is up and she’s too old and ugly for a man, that she tries everything possible, including awful diets, revolting pills, and personal insults to try and shave off the pounds. She might spend an extensive amount of money on worthless beauty products, but if she gets the attention of a boy, it all seems worth it. We need to know that, yes eternal marriage is extremely important, but that if a man isn’t going to love us for who we are on the inside, regardless what we look like, we’ll be miserable. Especially if we’re hollow from the empty efforts on our exterior. I know we need good examples to love their bodies so we can be courageous enough to do so as well! – Curlimee

This is for EVERY woman. Raise your glass to crushing what has become the social norm, and to being curvy, truly health conscious, and to learning to love who you are RIGHT NOW. You are beautiful. Embrace it! – Keely S.

Love this. We were not Created to become Fat Free, Silicone Enhanced Women. We are REAL women. REAL women, have stretch marks, cuddly squishy soft spots to lay your head on and be comforted and nurtured; we have wrinkles, from laughing and crying and worrying…I’m PROUD OF MY MARKS! They tell the measure of my person. They mean I have LIVED! ♥ – Amanda F.

Men and Women alike should hear this. We shouldn’t be fooled into thinking that the media’s standard of beauty is what we have to live up to. We can make a difference to “Re-define Beauty!” Very excellent work Lexie and Lindsay! – Amber P.

I’ve been following y’all’s work for a while. I’ve had some interesting experiences that make me care about this issue. I’m obviously coming from a different perspective than you are, and I love hearing your perspectives. Keep up the good work! – Rick

I read your article for LDS living, and I was very impressed. There is a lot of truth in that article, and espesialy us older LDS singles see how we are tricked into a false sense of what beuty really is. Well any way I enjoyed reading it. – Daniel

I couldn’t wait to get home from the UCAP conference in St. George tonight to tell you that we talked to several people about the awesome Kite sisters we met at the Lighted Candle Society dinner. You should be getting some calls for speaking opportunities! We think you are awesome! -Becky P.

Thank you Lexie and Lindsay for your amazing research and efforts! I stopped by your table last night and was so happy to find out about your cause. This is wonderful, empowering and important. -Wendy A.

Carry on in your great work!  Our young women and men –and their parents–need to have an “attitude transplant.” -Kathryn B.

LOVED your article in LDS Living!!! It was exactly what I needed to hear! You guys ROCK! – Holly B.

I couldn’t go to your presentation, but I sent our Beehive Advisor and she loved it! She said it was awesome and really made one think.  I wish I could have been there … she was very impressed. I think your presentation would be perfect for moms and daughters — something these young girls can attend with their mothers, where follow-up discussions can take place at home. -Hope T.

Thank you for this website! I especially relate to your message “you can love your own body and feel beautiful even if you don’t look like a Barbie doll.” This is the kind of thinking I’m trying to put into action in my own life and a concept like this with the work you’ve put behind it relates really well to the piece I’m working on. -Lindsay H.

I believe that it is a critical topic. We (all, also men) must learn very well the implications of the evil distortion of body image. I am myself a victim. Thank you for your great work. Keep it up!!! We need more LDS valiant women like you! -Joaquin

Holy smokes I am really really excited about this! I think there is a huge need for young women (and even older) to accept that poor body image and body dissatisfaction is a huge problem that will just keep growing — I think that too many choose to not address it or just to ignore it. It is such a huge trap in so many ways — just like you said, we’ll never get to where we need to be or be able to reach our full potential if we’re so hyper focused on trivial things. I could go on and on-but I think we’re on the same page :) – Laurel

Oh goodness! How does the media NOT change our perception of beauty? Not only has it changed what we think is beautiful, but I think it has severely limited our ability to recognize how much beauty there is. There is no way a few magazines or TV shows could capture all the beauty in the world. – Deb M.

Awesome article! I will definitely have to go buy the real thing. What you and Lindsay do to help women is such a great thing! I’m so proud of you girls! – Cindy

This is so exciting. I’m so thrilled for you two. Having struggled with these kinds of issues a lot as a youngster, I can say for sure what you are doing is very important. Obviously others think so as well. Congrats! -Mikaylie K.

You girls do such important work. -Maria B.

Thank you for this! Young people all over the world are throwing away love, knowledge and rich, full lives in exchange for “hotness.” So grateful to find there are others who feel the same way I do about this subject! -Silver Chalice

I attended your presentation several weeks ago on a Sunday night at a multi-ward fireside. Thanks for the presentation; it is such an important topic to address! I’m so grateful that you have taken the initiative to teach and bless lives in this way! I hope that you will realize your desires to help and that you will be a means of helping men and women to recognize the false and misleading conception of beauty presented by the media, and to realize what true beauty really is! -Josh

Great work. These women were much more restrained in their criticism of the media than I generally am. I believe our media is an integral part of “. . . evils and designs which do and will exist in the hearts of conspiring men in the last days . . .” D&C 89:4. – Andrea

I was in the audience at your presentation last night in Highland – thank you so much to you both! What a difference you have made in my life. My resolve to avoid the superficial and strive for real beauty has deepened. My husband and I had some great conversations about several of the topics your research covers. …How I wish that all girls, teens and women had the opportunity to hear your message. What a worthwhile work you are doing. Thank you, thank you! -JoAnn Carter Stevenson

Thank you so much for your presentation at the Heber Valley Camp on June 1st. As a mother of three teenaged daughters and as a leader in the young women’s organization, I can tell you that this message is truly needed. Your voices must be heard. I was very touched by your presentation and appreciate your research and experience. I am so grateful that my daughters were present during this presentation, most especially my 13 year old daughter who really struggles with her body image (as do we all at one time or another). I want all the young women in my life to hear your message. I will continue to view this site for a schedule update and then bring all of them to a presentation that is open to the public. Thanks again! -Jennifer Thomas

Thank you so much for your wonderful presentation tonight! I wish more people had been able to come hear what you had to say. You two are doing a great thing! Keep at it! -Rachel Nell Pearce

Great work!  This is such a problem and this message really hits the mark with its description. – Lance W.

I was so excited to read about your cause this afternoon! You are so inspiring. I’d love to know what you think and hear your ideas on how we can help women everywhere learn to love what they’ve got! I have several ideas that I’m REALLY excited about. I would be honored if you would be willing to meet with me sometime and discuss. -Niki Bennett

I wish I were in Utah and could see your presentation! Fantastic links and pictures. I would love share this message with a group of teenage girls out here in Georgia. Do you have anything prepared that I could use?  -Krista Bowles Ringger

I totally knew about how magazines and such photoshop pictures but to see it with my own eyes….it makes a difference. Thanks for this positive work you girls are doing. I hope that this reaches many ears….because this affects women all over the world, especially our little girls. Thanks I hope the world of “what is …considered beautiful” is changed by the time my four yearold reaches her preteen years. Good luck! Thanks! -Amy Hill Gibson

I think you two are absolutely awesome. You are such great examples of strong, capable women. I love the message that you are sharing with the women around you. I attended your presentation and it definitely has impacted me. I notice more lately in commercials and media and I can now point out how they are detrimental to women. Another thing I have thought about since your presentation is the balance between loving yourself as you are, but also making sure you are being healthy and taking care of yourself physically. I am working on my Ph.D. in Health Promotion and Education and I think that this is something that needs to be addressed. I admit that I have not come up with an answer yet that I am satisfied with, but your presentation definitely made me think about many good things. Thank you! Keep up the great work. -Shae Ashby

YES, YOU ARE MAKING A DIFFERENCE!!! PLEASE KEEP IT UP! I can’t say I’ve been to one of the seminars, but just the fact that this group exists and that you girls are doing something, going public, and drawing awareness, is fantastic! It’s about time! It’s very empowering actually! ♥ ♥ ♥ -Sara Villella

Lindsay and Lexie- you two are amazing!!! I wish every woman in the world could hear your presentation and feel validated and beautiful! My favorite part is when you point out how men can be so successful and famous when they don’t necessarily fall into the “Hot” category (look at Donald Trump, and then think of his …wives!). That really hit home for me as a scientist. It’s the dumbest thing, but women are judged whether or not their presentation will be worthwhile based on their appearance before they even begin! Male professors can be amazing teachers even if they’re unattractive, while no one wants to take a class from “the ugly, fat lady.” It’s more than unfair, it’s ridiculous! Keep up the good work, you’re voices need to be heard!! -Cindy Taylor

I’m a life coach and image consultant. I know that how we look at ourselves and the inner dialogue we carry on has more to do with how effective we are in our relationships, our education and our work and personal lives. It is an extrodinary topic and I am thrilled you are doing the work you are to carry the message …forward. Each of us are much better than what we think, and especially better than what we are TOLD. -Marsha Grover Steed Keller

After listening to yall talk the other night I really feel a lot batter about myself! Thank you sooo much!!! -Mikell Benson

Thank you so much Lexie and Lindsay! Your presentation is fantastic and I was so glad I got to hear it. I’ve been talking about it with my family and while it’s a really grim situation, I personally feel really empowered. Great job! -Aly Lambert

You came and talked at ar YW group last night and i just have to thank you for how great it was!!!!! my friends and I were totally talking about it the next day at school!!!! -Marissa Anne Frasier

Great work you two, and I wish you nothing but the best! Keep it going!  -Shea Donato

This is an amazing project. Thank you so much for doing it. -Whitney Hulet

Way to go you two! I would love to see your presentation some time. Keep me posted if you are ever up this way. -Sabrina Vasquez

This is Wonderful! -Kathryn Robinson

I would LOVE to hear your presentation sometime! You girls are awesome. Way to get out there and stand up for women! -Cindy Balling

Lindsay and Lexie, I love what you girls are doing with this!! I would love to hear your presentation sometime! If you make it over to Boise, please let me know so I can attend! You two are great!! Keep up the good work!  -Kristen Fell Powell

You should come down to Vegas and present here!!!! -Lori Andersen

The presentation was amazing! I’m telling my sisters about it. -Heather Berg

Thank you so much for the fireside presentation. You girls ROCKED it! -Eric Rice

I think you should come to Idaho Falls and do one. Soon! -Emily Morgan Downey

I am very inspired and intrigued with your commitment, work, and purpouse. I too as I am a wellness coach interact with many women, and men who their relationship to food and body image has been distorted and is unrealistic and unhealthy. There have been many occasions where people ask if I can help them be ‘under’ weight, I simply reply I won’t help them. If they’d like to reach a healthy weight, in a healthy way, that I am willing to coach people with :) It is devastating to see so many who buy into media ideals. I stopped buying fashion magazines a LONG time ago! I also studied related body image/food addiction/media and such at the U. I love who you are :) Rock on in Alaska! I hope to get to know you better soon as women committed to making an impact in this realm :) -Heather Houston

I was at the presentation you did for the North Canyon Stake young women last fall. It was WONDERFUL! Thank you. Best wishes in all your amazing work. -Debbie Hammon

Thanks again for presenting your thesis research to my class. The students loved it!! Seriously, after you left, the students–even the two men–talked for an hour about their body image issues and the role media has played in their lives. Very cool! Several students are interested in writing essays about their experiences with media/body image issues, so we have pull something together for an online book from the class. I’ll keep you posted.  -Brenda Cooper

I actually was at the Stake R.S presentation you did last night. I really enjoyed it, and actually have to write a research paper, and have been trying to figure out a topic. I really want to delve into misinterpretation of women in the media. Do you have references on some of the stats you had? Any information I could use?? Thanks again!!! And excellent job again! -Hannah Hepworth

You have an incredible amount of information that needs to get out to many, many people.  It is information that is counteractive to all of the propaganda that is controlling our society. You  girls are great!! I think that your efforts can be very effective in helping you with your “mission” and book.  Good luck. -Barbara D.

I was so impressed with your presentation….You are Awesome! I can’t wait for the girls to hear it. I am so excited for this message to get to our girls. I believe that they really need this. ….Thank you for being so giving with you time and talents. -Tamara K.

I just wanted to say belatedly that I really enjoyed your fireside Sunday! I knew Marilyn Monroe would be fat by today’s standards, but I didn’t know how much worse it had gotten within just the last decade. Also, should I throw a molatov cocktail at l’oreal? cause I SO want to start the revolution! – Jacob B. 

You pretty much rock. Thanks for the sharing your personal insight and research last night. love it. -Sheryl Tubbs